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Narcissistic & emotionally abusive relationships

Trauma bonds

Understanding why leaving can feel harder than the relationship itself.

A trauma bond is a strong emotional attachment that can form in a relationship with a repeated cycle of tension and relief, or harm and affection. It's a well-documented response to inconsistency and intensity — not a sign of weakness or poor judgment.

What keeps pulling your thoughts back to this person or relationship?

What need does that pull seem to be trying to meet?

What's one way you could meet that same need somewhere safer?

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